Facing Rifts That May Never Heal
The family fallout from identity politics, religion and massive manipulation
If you have one or several, you’re not alone. We can dress them up and call them ‘estrangements’ but it doesn’t change the pain that comes with a family member’s refusal to communicate, to block or belittle or even to harass us.
These rifts can seem surreal when the source is a loved one. I’ve been hurting for several weeks now. And I know that I’m not alone.
We might think that family has a leg up when it comes to understanding us, but as I wrote in Just Because You’re Related Doesn’t Mean You Can Relate that isn’t necessarily true. In fact, the illusion of a leg up, of shared DNA and childhood experiences, may keep us stuck in a cycle of despair and depression.
Nothing is Normal Now
“No normal” may give you small comfort but it’s worth a reminder. Our economy is built around sucking our attention, reinforcing our overwhelm and fears based on fine-tuned algorithms designed to make money.
We are not seeing or reading the same “news”. We even distinguish between misinformation (inaccurate) and disinformation (intentionally deceptive). Lies are so very pervasive that we have relabeled them according to their different levels…
